The following link leads to a well written article entitled The Dangers of Affirming Homosexuality in the Public Schools; I recommend you read it before reading the rest of this post.
http://www.icr.org/article/5347/
What I found to be so intriguing was that the article was provoked by a letter to public school superintendents nationwide from the American College of Pediatricians (doctors, not necessarily Christians).
I was then drawn into an email dialogue with a friend of mine about the article. Below is what I wrote:
I too have had friends who were gay. I still have friends who are gay. I still have friends who were once gay, but are so no longer. There is a ministry down here called Love In Action (LIA) that began as a ministry to homosexuals, but is more for those who suffer with any and all kinds of addictions now. But I did a lot of joint ministry work with LIA. I made many friendships with those going through the programs, I even had one of the graduates become my roommate for two years. We’re still close friends. All that to say, I have seen those who wrestled with homosexuality for years and decades be healed, delivered, set free, and now live heterosexually. The key to their healing and deliverance – Jesus Christ. It might seem cliché, but it is that simple. Doesn’t mean the process is simple, just that where the healing comes from is that simple of an answer.
Our culture is quick to believe that homosexuality is something we’re born with. Tendencies might be innate, but all behavior is learned. Children have tendencies to tell their first lie. But the behavior of lying is something that is learned and cultivated. Native Americans have a tendency to alcoholism – because of their biological makeup, they have a ‘weakness’ to alcohol. But drinking alcohol is a choice, the behavior is learned. Should they then all become alcoholics because of their tendency? I am making these comparisons because I have seen individuals completely freed from homosexuality – my roommate was one of them. As with alcoholism, as with pathological lying, homosexuality is a behavior…it can be changed. It is not an identity. It is not who one is, but simply feelings they have and behavior they engage in. Being a heterosexual is not my identity, it does not define me, it is not who I am. I am a man and that is undeniable. What I choose to do as a man with another man or a woman, is behavior, choice, not identity.
I’m sure you’ve had debates and arguments about homosexuality. I like to try and have people think of its sensibility in the biological sense. A man’s penis has two functions…urination and procreation. Biologically speaking, homosexual sex between two men makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. For a female, the vagina is for procreation, period. A woman cannot impregnate another woman.
But what about love, you say? Love is good and wonderful. If the fact that one person loves another means they should be allowed to have sex, then why can’t Chester (who is a 40-year-old male teacher) have sex with his 10-year-old female student? He did claim that he loves her. Or why not have sex with a goat for that matter? To each his own, right? Still doesn’t make it right. Regarding the goat, you have to weigh the biological factor. And with the child and adult issue, that raises a moral and ethical question. And at that point we venture into arguing the existence of universal truth. Just about every human being in all of history has agreed that an adult having sex with a child is wrong. Well, if universal truth does not exist, then why is it wrong? If universal truth does not exist, then there’s nothing wrong with homosexuality. Doesn’t make a lick of sense biologically. But, like I already stated – to each his own. If universal truth does exist however, then that changes everything, then that means we don’t just have to consider the biological and the ethical, but the moral and spiritual as well, then you have just laid one of the initial foundations for a belief in God. And if God does exist and there is universal truth that God established, then surely, he has something to say about what occurs in his creation. Most all believers in God (in one form or another) all agree that God says homosexuality is wrong.
The reason I agree with the article so much is because I have seen first hand the disastrous effects homosexuality has on children when they are taught to embrace it at that young of an age. Children and teenagers are at their most critical developing years and to teach them that a learned behavior that goes against the laws of biology, evolution (if you believe in that), God and spirituality, is good and acceptable, it causes tremendous confusion. Suddenly what should make sense, doesn’t. Male and female, literally and figuratively, fit together. Male and male don’t. Female and female don’t. Confusion about sexuality causes so many more problems than simply sexual ones. It causes self-esteem issues, social anxiety issues, interpersonal relational issues, etc., especially when proposed as good and acceptable to children and teenagers.
So what made the article incredible to me is how well the author used primary sources to quote that not only does homosexuality cause serious health risks, but also quotes that there is no scientific evidence that shows that homosexuality is something innate in some human beings (i.e. in their DNA); but instead, is a learned behavior pattern stemming from confusion over sexual identity often occurring in the formative adolescent years. There is more evidence to prove that heterosexuality is the only way than there is evidence to show that homosexuality is a scientifically and emotionally acceptable alternative. I felt the need to post a link to this article for the reason that it is very well written, cites expert scientific authorities, and makes a very strong case at that. Not to mention, the author draws in the Christian worldview quite well.
I understand the article made you angry. Believe it or not, anger is a good thing. For without anger, we often do not act upon convictions – you never would have sent me a message asking for further explanation. I greatly appreciate and respect your wanting to understand and taking the initiative to ask.